I've got to give the Dad and myself a few pats on the back. It seems that throughout the craziness that is our life of wrangling 5 children, we must be doing something right.
Last month I told you all about Daughter 1 being asked to prom, the week of prom, by a senior boy who found himself without his previous date.
Daughter 1 was excited but cautiously hopeful in her preparation. (We aren't raising naive children around here.) In fact she was so cautiously hopeful that she didn't allow herself to get excited till 9 am the morning of the prom as I sat to do her manicure.
Don't worry, she didn't get stood up or anything. She went and had a good time and more importantly followed all the rules we had laid out.
In preparation for the big event we had the boy over for dinner. We expressed our concern with the timing of things and how it might be perceived and where that would fall on our daughter. He assured her, and us that things weren't exactly friendly with his ex-girlfriend/prom date but, that things were definitely done and in an ok place. So we allowed her to go and have since kept a close eye on the friendship/high school relationship.
So here's were the bragging and patting on the backs begin.
Today, Daughter 1 sent me a string of text messages:
Text 1. "He's not over her."
Text 2. "Don't worry I'm not sad or anything. I'm mad."
Text 3. "I deserve better than that."
Text 4. "So does she."
Text 5. "By the way I got a 94% on my Biology semester test."
As I read my daughter's first message my heart began to hurt for her but, before I could text her back and say something mommy-like she sends the second and then the third.
By the third message I was smiling. "I deserve better than that."
She had been listening. She had been hearing us as we told her nightly we loved her and she deserved the world. She knows it's the truth.
As a Momma there are countless dreams and hopes I have for my children. Self respect and awareness is problem on the top of the list. To witness my 16 year old little girl define her worth is amazing. She is wise. She is kind. She is beautiful. She is loved. And, she knows it.
SHE KNOWS IT!!
Points for the Momma and the Dad we ARE doing something right.